You know how it goes with the first child…new everything! And all the time, often. Then the second child comes along and well, bonus if they’re the same sex (and I wouldn’t blame you if your boy was all in pink because #timesbetough y’all!!)…because well, hand me downs 🙂 Poor Riley gets so excited when he receives something brand new from the shop shame – it’s like Christmas came early. Most of the clothes he has are second hand. Of course, I kept only the things that were in tip top condition but again, this is basically most of Ethan’s old clothes because as the first child, he just had so many new things all.the.time.
When Ethan started grade 1 last year, we bought him all brand new clothing items – from the uniform to the extra mural wear, everything was straight out of the box. The first time he lost something, it was replaced almost immediately with a new item. The second time, probably with some serious annoyance from myself, it was replaced again! But then I started to realise that not only is he a child and he will lose things (thank goodness that very rarely happens now!! *touch wood*), but he also grows at a really rapid rate. Things that fit at the beginning of last year were barely fitting him by June/July [read: school shoes, my child is now in a size 3, he’s 7!!!!]. Shorts from term 1 were still okay in term 4 length wise, but around the waist, they were a squeeze and in term 1 this year, they could only close if he sucked his breathe in and believe me, I tried. Let’s face it though…kids outgrow things and need bigger sizes.
So I’ve eventually seen the light and am happy to pick up second hand items provided that they’re in good condition. This morning, I picked up 2 pairs of winter trousers, a tie (so we have spare one in case) and a tracksuit jacket for sports on colder days all for the price of R200 from the school uniform shop. To put it into perspective for those of you whose kids are not yet in “big school”, if I bought the trousers brand new from the same shop, 1 pair would have cost R180!!!!! We’ve also been fortunate in that my cousin has given us some hand me down school clothing items, and he is happy as a pig in mud to have new stuff…whether it’s a hand me down or not!
So I was driving into work this morning thinking – what’s all the fuss about? I mean, the child is going to be comfortable in clothes that fit him, and he’ll look neat because of course I made sure that the items chosen were in really good condition! And then that got me thinking…when Riley starts big school in 2021, will I buy him brand new uniforms or will he start school wearing Ethan’s hand me downs??!!!
What do you do for your children?
Do you accept hand me downs from family?
If one child gets new things, do you give the other too?