The first time I can recall my mother talking to me about s-e-x was when is when I was 13years old. I will never forget the day – although I’m pretty she has!! She had picked me up from school (I was in a different school to my sister as I had just moved to high school), and we chatted in the car as usual on the way to fetch my sister. When we got to the road that my sister’s school was in, she parked like 1,000kms from the front gate, and immediately I knew that something was up. Why were we not pulling up in front of the school when there was no traffic or pick-up car line at all?! I remember cringeing inside bracing myself for the worst. And then she told me that she’d seen an e-mail trail between a boy and myself. I shall not go into the detail of the talk, nor shall I go into the details of the relationship or the e-mail 😉 , but I can tell you that even though I was 13 and felt old enough to be doing the nonsense I was doing, I felt sooooo awkward sitting and listening to my mother talk about these things especially when she spoke about s-e-x and contraceptives!!
Having two boys, I have always thought it a good idea for their dad to talk to them about this subject. Never did I think that it would be happening so soon though. So no, we haven’t yet had to have the conversation with Ethan, however, over the past weekend, I heard Ethan mention the word S-E-X twice in passing. I can’t even remember what it is that he said, but I immediately asked him what that word means and where he heard it from. Of course he just shrugged and said I don’t know. But if he knows the word, best believe somebody’s mentioned it, probably at school. And there is absolutely no way I want my children to learn about things like this from their friends! They need to hear about it from us. In my opinion, it needs to be explained exactly for what it is…no made up words, no eluding to anything…it’s not a taboo thing and there are biological names for all the parts of our bodies. Of course, it also needs to be explained at an age appropriate level, but nothing should shied away from in the conversation, maybe just put differently you know?!
The main thing freaking me out right now is that Ethan is not even 8 yet! How is it that we are going to be having this conversation at this early an age?! 😦 I guess it’s the world we live in…
So tell me, have you spoken to your kids about this?
At what age did you do it, and more interestingly, how did they take it?